I have heard this statement  from so many people – it hardly matters about the age of the person or the gender! Largely life is about being happy and successful. Each person has to decide what is being happy and what is being successful.

Now success is a function of

your job x the money you make x family x friends x attitude …….and each of this value has to be a POSITIVE integer. The advantage or disadvantage is people do not think of life being so easy to segment.

Even when they are looking for a job they DO NOT PRIORITISE what they want. For example the following could be the criteria:

– I do not wish to travel for more than 30 minutes

– The minimum salary @ which I will work is Rs. 12,00,000 p.a.

– I need to be home by 7pm to be with my kids

– My job should not involve TRAVEL outstation for any OVERNIGHT trips

– My job should be very interesting

– I should have chance to interact with people my age or younger than me

– I do want / do not want a job involving a lot of local travel everyday, to me it is tiring.

Any of these can be a good reason to change jobs. However do not try to combine conditions, be clear many of these conditions are either ‘or’.

For example if you live in Kharghar and say ‘I want a job near my house and pays Rs. 45,00,000 for head of operations’- sorry no such jobs are available!

YOU have to decide what you want. All other conditions should be IGNORED….

For example if you say ‘I want to make money and nothing else is important’ you should be willing to go to Saudi Arabia, Russia, Bahrain,….to earn money. Then there is no point in cribbing about food, family life, weekends, etc.

Similarly if you want to be with your family…then do not crib about the money you make, the fact that your friends are travelling,….etc.

So a job too is about GOAL SETTING. If you are getting what you want –

Job security (government job),

High salary (mnc job),

Nice working hours (some private sector employers who are looking for senior employees)

…decide what you want, seek it, get it, and be happy with it. Stop looking at others – you do not know what they want, what they sought and what they got.

In most cases if you know the full story…you will realize you are in the same boat….:-)

  1. Perfectly true lines “decide what you want, seek it, get it, and be happy with it. Stop looking at others – you do not know what they want, what they sought and what they got.”

  2. Somebody shared this with me a while back which holds good here.

    If you pile up all the worries of all the people in the world and divide it equally and ask folks to take a piece of it, the chances are high that you will say “forget all this, I am ok with the worries I have” 🙂

    Never compare yourself to another person in your life. That is a self defeating strategy for sure!

  3. Its not always about changing the job either. Its could be about asking for what you want within the organization itself. The most common complaint about the job is that the job itself is boring or not making the best use of capabilities. If you are too shy to ask for a change or additional responsibilities, job would soon be boring anywhere.

  4. completely as an aside Subra, there are some stupendously dumb articles on the net about SBI bonds. I hope people have stayed away from the bond issue because of such idiots running blogs or websites ….what is your view?

  5. Subra,

    Short, crisp but a lot of wisdom in career planning. You’ve made career planning, dead easy and simple. Iam not sure if you are already a career councellor, but this article has beaten most others by pro career councellors, for making it clear, sweet and simple. Thanks.

  6. Looking or observing others is a great learning tool – the biggest free experiemental and learning lab is this world and people around us!!

    Many of us make theories / comments because we may have already learnt a lot in life – but were we born with all that! So how did we learn all this!

  7. There was a blind girl who hated herself just because she’s blind. She hated everyone, except her loving boyfriend. He’s always there for her. She said that if she could only see the world, she would marry her boyfriend.

    One day, someone donated a pair of eyes to her and then she can see everything, including her boyfriend. Her boyfriend asked her, “now that you can see the world, will you marry me?” The girl was shocked when she saw that her boyfriend is blind too, and refused to marry him. Her boyfriend walked away in tears, and later wrote a letter to her saying. “Just take care of my eyes dear.”
    _______

    This is how human brain changes when the status changed.

    Only few remember what life was before, and who’s always been there even in the most painful situations.

    Life is A Gift.

    Today before you think of saying an unkind word – Think of someone who can’t speak.

    Before you complain about the taste of your food – Think of someone who has nothing to eat.

    Before you complain about your husband or wife – Think of someone ho’s crying out for a companion.

    Today before you complain about life – Think of someone who went too early to heaven/hell.

    Before you complain about your children – Think of someone who desires children but they’re barren.

    Before you argue about your dirty house, someone didn’t clean or sweep – Think of the people who are living in the streets.

    Before whining about the distance you drive – Think of someone who walks the same distance with their feet.

    And when you are tired and complain about your job – Think of the unemployed, the disabled and those who wished they had your job.

    But before you think of pointing the finger or condemning another – Remember that not one of us are without sin and we all answer to one maker.

    And when depressing thoughts seem to get you down – Put a smile on your face and thank — you’re alive and still around

    Life is a gift – Live it, Enjoy it, Celebrate it, And Fulfill it.

    (Reproduced from http://academictips.org/blogs/moral-tale-the-story-of-a-blind-girl/)

  8. Hey, I have a government job and I hate it. it is not productive or rewarding mentally. it makes me a slob. I really wanna quit and be self employed. I’m good at being a freelancer and I have done it for a year before I got this crappy job. I cant quit because my parents are acting dramatic when I say I wanna quit. (i live in india of course). I’m just 23 and I cannot imagine wasting my youth in a dust filled govt office and making money I will never spend and getting old and sick before I know it I will be fat and dead. I want to follow my heart but my parents are obsessed with other peoples thoughts. they are constantly making comments on how some other poor unemployed guy is dying to be in my position. they don’t care that im dying to be self employed.

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